Current mood:
pissed off
There will always be people you will find in life that for some reason or another feel the need to run their mouths about situations or people that are absolutely none of their concern. These opinions and partial truths gradually go from person to person becoming more and more altered and inconsistent as they go from mouth to mouth resulting in the ever-so-bitter 'rumor.' However there are the select few who take gossip to such an extreme point that it seems they have absolutely nothing else to offer. These people have no conception of the toll this can take on another. ..:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
I found myself today in a position where apparently my grandma is pissed because someone from her church informed her of how "I consistently have different guys sleeping over at my house." (shit for brains – learn to count… the twos guys that I have dated since moving in back in February hardly consists of a different guy every night.) Now, my grandma has never been particularly fond of me in the first place, however since I have moved out over 3 years ago our relationship has seemingly mended and she actually has been able to relate to me as a person. This relationship has now single-handedly been destroyed because SOMEONE can keep other people names out of her mouth. My grandma who has always had a tendency to hold grudges will, I'm certain, for the next 10 years not only think I am a whore, but treat me like one… Thanks. I'm sure your do great things for society someday…
Anyhow – due to my utterly livid state at point of confrontation, I found myself at loss for words, but this is what I had every intention of saying:
Quit being so goddamned selfish. Use your fucken head and think about what you say before it comes out your mouth. I don't give a flyin fuck about your opinion of me and I don't care if you run to all your friends and tell them because they don't mean jack shit to me either. But when you run your mouth to your parents, who apparently have the same gossiping tendencies as yourself, and go to the same church as my grandparents – YOU CROSS A LINE. Let me reiterate this to you– you didn't just cross a line – you bum-rushed a fucken brick wall and tore right through that bitch.
It's one thing be ignorant and naïve. It's understandable to not understand or agree with the way I live my life if you've never had any life experience. But to let that ignorance and naivety hold such a precedence of your personality is ridiculous… but understandable. To be so utterly resistant to accepting (not abiding by, mind you. ACCEPTING.) any other way of life is just fucken retarded. Not everybody has the same values and to expect them to is such a flawed perspective that somehow I believe this to lead to nothing more than an uneventful life….
But hey… I could be wrong… if you're happy, go on about your shit. But don't push it on people around you. I wish you the best of luck in your bubble.
Food for thought. Found this shit online as to why people gossip in the first place. Think it rather intriguing:
To Feellsuperior
When people are feeling bad about themselves, they sometimes think they'll feel better if there were someone worse off than they are. It's like, it's okay being near the bottom, as long as they're not actually on the bottom. The easiest way for them to make sure someone else is on the bottom is to make up a rumor that puts him or her there.
To feel like part of the group
If everybody else is gossiping or spreading rumors, you might feel you have to do the same thing in order to fit in. When you're "in on the secret," you're in the group. Unfortunately, the person who the gossip or rumor is about is usually left out of the group for the same reason that you're let into it.
For attention
When you know a secret that nobody knows, or are the first person in your group to hear a rumor, it can make you the center of attention. A rumor or piece of gossip is sometimes like money; telling it to people is like buying their attention, if only for a few minutes. You might even save up a really scandalous rumor, waiting for the right moment to blab so you get the maximum amount of attention
for it.
For control or power
Certain people always want to be in control and at the top of the ladder. You probably know at least one person who needs to be the leader, say what goes, and make all the decisions. When people are at the top of the popularity scale, or are determined to climb higher, one way they do this is by reducing the "status" of another person. Spreading rumors and gossip is one of the main ways people reduce another person's status, especially among girls. It's like one caveman beating up another caveman for control of the tribe…only it's done with cruel whispers and petty remarks instead of fists.
Out of jealousy or a need for revenge
If you're jealous of someone's looks, popularity, or money, you might gossip about that person in order to hurt him or her. If you feel that someone's done something bad to you, or deserves to be hurt, making up a rumor might satisfy your sense of justice.
Out of boredom
Did you know that in many studies, this was the 1 reason why young people say they spread rumors? Sometimes, a period where everyone is happy and getting along just seems kind of…dull. Spreading juicy dish might shake things up a bit, or get two people to start a fight, and that would make life a little more exciting. All those tabloid newspapers and TV shows full of celebrity gossip are pure proof that rumors are a popular form of entertainment.
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